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Spread Your Wings and Fly Towards Success

August 24, 2013 Leave a comment

Success is limited to a few “lucky” individuals right? Not all of us can be privileged with success, just those whose “fate” it is to be successful right? WRONG. WRONG!! Every single one of us has the ability to be successful, as success is knowing your destiny. Once you realise your destiny it is absolutely impossible for you to not succeed. It is your DESTINY. Do you get that? It is what you are DESTINED to do. When you are destined to do something, the whole world will conspire in your favour to make it happen. That is the truth. Of course, not many of us realise our destiny, and this is where the problem occurs. Some of us don’t realise it, some of us don’t search for it, some of us don’t believe in it. And as a result, many of us are left unsatisfied and disappointed with life as we further endorse the notion that “I am just unlucky”. Bullshit! Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Search within yourself for your DESTINY. Yes, I will keep repeating that word as it should be the most important thing to you; more important than life itself. Because what is life, if it isn’t YOUR life as it is DESTINED to be?
As many of you read this, you know exactly what I’m talking about. That pulling at your heart, that stirring in your belly. The feelings you can’t shake off, the voices in your head. Telling you to change direction. Not to fear. To chase your dreams. Not to give up. What do you fear? Do you fear failing at your destiny more than you fear never realising it? If so, as common as this fear is, it’s insanity! Why, you ask? It is insanity because your DESTINY WILL NEVER FAIL YOU. If you listen to the truth of your heart, and follow its every word, you simply cannot fail. Of course, there will be obstacles, and would you not want a few? Challenges make your destiny so much more purposeful, not to mention bring strength and courage to your journey. But I guarantee,  you stay pursuing nothing but your destiny and those obstacles will eventually decrease, as you become more and more powerful; more in tune with your heart and the world and with a developed skill of spotting a problem as its approaching and knowing how to overcome it. Your confidence will grow, as you will start to see things changing around you; from your needs and desires, your accomplishments, to the way people around you respect you. Because anyone being true to themselves and not afraid to follow their destiny warrants respect. You will start to understand how important your heart is in guiding you. You will learn the tricks and patterns of your mind, and how your heart is so much closer to the truth, than your mind could ever be. And most importantly, you will develop an insatiable hunger for LIFE. You will start to LIVE, not exist.

No, not everyone’s DESTINY is to be rich and famous. And thank God for that. But whatever your destiny, it is YOUR own. And realising it is the only way you will ever reach contentment and fulfilment. So own it, nurture it, listen to and follow it. Anything else is simply a waste of time, a waste of life. And your heart will not hesitate to tell you that, after the years have passed, I promise you that. (Suddenly thought of the “mid-life crisis” Who am I? what is my life about??!) Your heart will never betray you. So I suggest you make a point, every day, of sitting down and having a conversation with your heart; check in daily to make sure you are on the right path.

DESTINY. Get that word ingrained in your mind. Now start living it.

Spread Your Wings and Fly

Spread Your Wings and Fly


Approval necessary?

September 22, 2012 2 comments


So I recently found myself saying something not unfamiliar to many of you I’m sure…. “I’m tired of people taking the piss, people take kindness for weakness, I’m sick of everyone’s sly and selfish ways, everyone is out for themselves…. I’m DONE with people!!’ It seemed to me that I was running around doing groundwork (the hard work) whilst everyone else was doing what they wanted, when they wanted. It appeared that, everyone was turning to me, asking me for help, advice, guidance, to do something for them; it was me always pushing and encouraging others, me trying to motivate people, extending way out of my immediate team, even strangers on the street! I felt like I had wasted many years worrying about other people’s problems and not my own, and worse still, felt like the few times I did decide to present a problem, it wasn’t taken seriously!  Where was my encouragement? Everyone just kinda expected me to not need any. After a while, one feels drained. It’s like all the positive physical and mental energy gets sucked out of you and you carry the problems of the world on your shoulders. There you are, in a pickle, stressed, overloaded with work, deprived of sleep and of course a social life, but you have to keep smiling, have to motivate the people around you. Most people do not even realise what is going on. Oh, just a few work issues, nothing major. Oh she’s upset, something to do with some black history thing, you know how she is. They do not understand the amount of energy it takes to be responsible for other people’s mistakes, to have to maintain a positive energy through the crappiest of times not only for yourself but for a lot of other people who are relying on you. They have no idea that while half the time you’re smiling, inside you’re asking yourself why people are blindly funding war, or why babies are being murdered over power, greed and confusion. They do not get why you worry about the state of society, as though they are not part of it! After a while, you just learn to completely forget your problems, and put them second to everyone else’s. Besides, you have to see the bigger picture right? Caring for others is the most valuable virtue we have to offer; love. But that is another time, another post…… Integrity is doing the right thing even when no one is watching. Even when you’ve got people judging you left right and centre, people relying on you left right and centre, snakes slithering silently causing all sorts of trouble, you just have to cut the grass and keep it moving. As Jim Rohn says, you just have to smile and say, “Well isn’t that interesting….”. Whilst speaking of  Jim Rohn, he was one of the reasons, besides the others that I will soon explain to you, why I have now stopped thinking and making such statements as the ones I posed to you at the start of this piece. I seem to constantly worry in my mind of the world, of our people, what we can do to change and better ourselves together; I often find myself in a very sad place of concern for those who are being wronged; I am a Libra and I think that contributes to my strong desire for justice. At one point I vowed to myself to never do this again, to stop caring, but then I listened to one of Jim Rohns talks on a DVD, and he spoke about how when you care about other people and help them with their problems, yours just disappear! He said the more you help to continue to focus on bettering others, the more positive changes in your own life you will soon start to see. And I guess it kinda makes sense, I mean, you get what you put out right? And that doesn’t have to be exactly literal; just because you helped someone doesn’t mean that particular person should or will help you, neither does it necessarily mean they used you, neither does it mean that they were genuine, it just is what it is. But as long as you are genuine in your desire to help others and give out nothing but positivity and love, you will attract that back, even if from a different source or place than you expected or thought you wanted. And I have tended to stick to this way of thought in general anyway, of course with a few slip ups along my journey; I’m human and I’m growing.

I also remember tweeting not too long ago complaining of being “used and abused” and probably wrote something along the lines of “I’m done of letting people do me wrong and me not say anything, no more miss nice girl”, all that kinda rubbish, done helping people and speaking good of people who are only speaking bad of me, are disloyal blah blah blah, and then a fellow facebooker said that no I am not in fact done with people, that is my ego talking. He continued to say that I should continue doing what I am doing, as I am on the right and positive path. In hindsight, I’m slightly peeved that a stranger told me something I already very much knew and advise others, however I really appreciated his comment and honesty at the time, and again, like Jimmy, he is right. It is our egos that cause us to feel this way; why do we nearly always expect acknowledgement for what we do right? Surely that’s what we are supposed to do regardless, and the ones who aren’t, are the ones who should be getting themselves worked up and upset? Besides, people abusing you, being small minded, judgmental, disloyal, nasty, unreliable, I mean the list is endless, but the point is people that treat you this way or do these things tell you more about themselves than they do you, and if anything they are just a further reminder that we all really need to get it together and there is still a lot of confusion in the world. But turning your back on people, is like turning your back on yourself. How can we move forward without unity or understanding? Making a decision to spread hate instead of love or, if that’s too extreme, limiting the amount of people you reach out to and help regardless of who they are or what they’ve done you, has no beneficial value in the short or long run; not only are you now letting out a less than fully positive energy, but you’re slowing down the change that we all so much need; to accept each others differences, realise they are so less important than we think and to realise what makes us the same. What are we all striving for? What would we all love to see for ourselves and the world? I am sure, in fact pretty certain, that Peace and Love will make the top two responses.

Never allow let downs to throw you off your positive path or to change who you are as a person. Do not allow negativity or seclusion to become your defence for whenever you feel people are not appreciating you. You are here to appreciate yourself whilst helping your people and contributing to our future, and at the end of the day, it feels a lot better sitting back silently observing things and people slowly progressing and knowing you contributed to that, whether they know it or not. As long as everyone’s progressing in some way, shape or form, who cares? The most important approval worth having is self- approval; just make sure you’re always doing as much as you can to deserve it from yourself. The one’s that matter will catch on….




When it rains it pours? Rid of negativity NOW

I had to write a very quick post for you all which I hope helps to inspire you through hard times.

Do NOT underestimate the power of negativity! Yes, as I always tell you, our minds are our most powerful tools, so the same way we can manifest wonderful, beautiful and awesome things through a positive thought process, we can also create hugely negative situations without even realising we are doing it! How often do you find yourself in a great mood and then suddenly out of the blue, something or someone comes along with some BULLS*IT and tries to throw you off of your path? And what do you say to them or to the situation? Usually, something along the lines of, “Don’t rain on my parade!” “I am staying away from your negativity!”. And that is a good thing to say. However, what we fail to realise is we are the ones that attracted this negativity. Despite the positive vibes we thought we were sending out, somewhere, somehow, we in fact vibrated on a negative level in order to attract any bad situation. I mean, it’s simple physics that you cannot argue with; like attracts like. I know there are times when you just cannot work out why or how a certain bad situation happened to you. You go through your actions, your intentions and thoughts, and find it very hard to believe that you had any part to play in the negativity that came your way. Well I am telling you that you in fact played a huge part. I am not here to point fingers, judge or accuse. I say the same thing to myself whenever anything bad happens to me, no matter how unfair it seems at the time. But what is truly wonderful about knowing this is how much control of your life you can really start to have once you take full responsibility for both the good and the bad that occurs in your life. We are very quick to point fingers and place blame on others when stuff starts going wrong. And don’t get me wrong, of course other factors and others also play a part. But what others do right or wrong shouldn’t affect you; it only affects you as much as you let it, and you will only attract what you are supposed to, based on what you are putting out to the universe. So as much as it might be someone else’s fault that you were late, what did YOU do to put yourself in a situation like that in the first place? What signals were you sending out?

Now, knowing that we are capable of manifesting such wonderfully huge things whether good or bad, that should be an indication into how much power you have inside of you. And isn’t that exciting? I recently learned an amazing way to overcome bad times and to turn them into positive situations. How many times has something bad happened to you then suddenly it’s just one bad thing after the other? They say bad luck comes in threes. Well that is a load of rubbish. There is no such thing as bad luck; you create your world and the moments in it. And it is no coincidence that after the first thing went wrong, so did many other things around you. It is no coincidence at all. In fact, what happened was once the first bad thing happened, you lost that positive spark. You may have tried to remain positive, but deep down inside you didn’t truly believe it. You felt defeated. A little piece of your hope and belief was broken away. It weakened you. You then felt sorry for yourself; you asked yourself “why me?” and “what did I do to deserve this?“. But you see, they are negative thoughts and actions, and will only attract more unfortunate situations. So there came more “bad luck”, and more and more, until you came to accept that, oh well, these things happen and it is “just life”. Well that is not true! Your life can be full of constant and consistent wonderful moments of happiness that you are in control of! I said I had learned a way to deal with a negative situation didn’t I? And this is it: No matter how big or how small, if you find yourself laden with a negative situation, stop and say to yourself, Wow! Look at what I have created here! I am sorry that I have brought this on myself. I am sorry. I love and trust myself to overcome this situation. I am capable of great things! I am extremely powerful. So powerful, that look what I have created! I am sorry. I love you. I love you and I am sorry. Now that I know how powerful I am, I am going to use my power to attract wonderful things! I am focused once again!” 

No matter how big or how small, you must remind yourself that it was your power that attracted this; in fact, the bigger the negative situation is, the more power and negative energy you clearly gave out, whether you can understand it or not, it is true. And yes, it may be a hugely upsetting situation that you find yourself in, but the fact that it is huge shows how powerful you are! And focusing on how terrible it is will 100% not make it any better; in fact it is very likely to only make it worse. I am not saying live in denial, quite the opposite. Take full responsibility for what has occurred, apologise to yourself, send out messages of love to yourself and the universe and attack it with positivity. This is the only away things can improve.

I have many ways to train your mind to focus fully on positivity, some that I am still learning, some that I have mastered, which I will share with you very soon.

Realise YOUr Power….

Alien. Project.P

Fashion Frenzy Promo vid

December 3, 2011 1 comment

I thought I’d quickly post the promo vid for the Fashion Frenzy, Children in Need fundraiser, which I was recently involved in. I had a great night; my highlights being the Obscure Couture show, Glenda the comedienne, eating cupcakes made by two adorable twins, bumping heads with Masato and the lovely owners of Scarecrow Boutique, and catching up with Anna Gregory again, who had the same enthusiasm and positive vibe/energy about her that I remembered her to have when last seeing her at LFW.

Well done also to N’Damus, Dom of Air, Eve Yasmine, The Cupcake Twins, and many more which I am sure I will remember immediately after posting this 🙂

Ande and her team did a fantastic job, and so did everyone else involved, including those who came down and contributed. So thank you if that was you! xx

Full Cut The Chat episode feat Portia Freno

December 1, 2011 Leave a comment

You can now watch the full Cut The Chat episode here. I had a lot of fun filming and it is a great watch, however due to the way it was edited it looks like I said I was lead in Adam Deacons film Anuvahood… I didn’t say that… I in fact said I had a dream that Adam wrote a film and put me as lead, and it turned out shortly after that he had in fact written a film and wanted me to audition for various roles… what a coincidence aye? Anyway, no one has said anything but just thought I would clear that up 😉

Anyway, thanks to the Cut The Chat team! Enjoy 🙂

Cut The CRAP! Aisleyne and Portia Freno talk boobies

November 24, 2011 Leave a comment

For a while I was meaning to feature on Cut the Chat but schedules never permitted. I missed out on the all female special which was a shame; however shortly after coming off tour, I was invited again to film the next episode and I said of course, I’ll bring Aisleyne too 🙂 (Bit of girl power) We were also joined by the brilliant Jazzie so it was guaranteed to be lots of fun. The full episode isn’t available yet, but Femi and the crew have managed to get a short vid out on what honestly may have been the most serious issue we discussed that evening. (Only kidding)…

“Aislyene and Portia Freno talk boobies”  Haha. Full vid coming soon x

Rock The Catwalk with Core Spirit

October 30, 2011 Leave a comment

After attending Rock The Catwalk’s private press launch on behalf of Little Miss Fashion (full write up can be found on the LMF site) I was asked to present their official public launch which took place Wednesday 26th October, with Dirty Media London.

For those who do not know about Rock The Catwalk yet, check out the LMF site. But to brief you quickly; Rock The Catwalk is a fashion event that offers exposure and a free catwalk to designers, make up artists and stylists. All you have to do is simply book your slot online and start preparing for and organizing your show! The catwalk is situated in Core Spirit’s flagship store on the fashionable New Bond St. Shoppers, fashionistas and passers by are able to watch shows as they browse, and see what great talent is out there.  And the opportunities do not stop there; the general public can vote online for their favourite collections, and the most popular will be branded and produced through the Core spirit label. So yep,  it’s quite a big deal and could make the dreams of an ambitious fashion designer come true.

So of course it was a real privilege to be involved with what I believe to be a fantastic fashion event and concept and a huge platform for fashion creatives. I got to interview the designers, the models and of course get feedback from the public. Core Spirit even offer free make overs to the general public, so I hit New Bond St and brought in a load of girls to beautify themselves 🙂 And of course I myself was asked to strut down the catwalk; something I wasn’t expecting but did all the same so as not to be a party pooper hehehe.

I’m really excited about the future of Rock The Catwalk and look forward to seeing some of you at the next one.  Shout out Core Spirit and Dirty Media London  xx

With two fashion graduates after their shows, wearing a Core Spirit jacket I adore!

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